Rejection comes in several forms
- Asking and getting a No.
- People you know or don’t avoiding you
- Others ignoring you
We experience rejection everyday in our daily interactions. Depending on who from, and the intensity in which we allocate it, we can forget it moments after it happens or stick with you for a long time.
It’s no doubt the build up of anticipation because of the expections beforehand leads to a little heart break, but then again no matter where you’re in life, there will never be a button that you can press and say no more rejection because it can be from an employer, friend, a partner or even a stranger.
What helps in dealing with rejection?
Sharing and hearing the experiences of others is a step towards letting go of negative feelings. It makes you realize that it’s not the end of the world. There are others who have faced rejections that seem too huge for you, yet they get over it.
Incase of rejection towards achieving something, may it be a job or getting into the school you applied to, the fact that people who keep achieving their big dreams jump through hoops to get where they should help you turn the No into a try again.
The biggest way to heal is not to stay down because you feel bad, but to get up and try again or move on to the next.
Never let rejection bring about a lack of initiative on your part. Putting yourself out there, where people are ignoring and avoiding you while others tell you no, then getting back out there the next day. This is known as building resilience.
Overcoming rejection from people close to you takes the most effort as it causes the most heart ache. It,s important to realise that you may never fully understand why someone doesn’t respond. Same applies to not having an answer to why your spouse doesn’t like you as much anymore.
Stepping back and taking sometime to yourself will help you heal from rejection faster. Taking time away from a loved one who’s causing you heart ache works wonders. It a way of helping you reflect and prioritize. Uninvited: Living Loved When You Feel Less Than, Left Out is a book i love that goes deep into living your fullest life inspite of rejection.
Do not dwell on it. Finding a healthy balance in your life is a key factor in overcoming rejection. Its a gateway to gracefulness and dignity even in the face of rejection. It’s best to realise that there are some things that we will never understand and make peace with that.